“Practice is everything. This is often misquoted as Practice makes perfect.”Periander
I’m going to project on you for a moment:
You’re stuck in the daydream of being anyone else right now. These thoughts cross your mind as you sip your coffee.
What would life be like if I was a famous artist. What if I was a best selling author. What if I was super physically fit?
We’re bombarded with fake models of how to live from every kind of media. We’re taught not to be content with the status quo. Look at the life they have that you don’t. It’s pretty obvious that they’re just trying to make a quick buck off of you, but the effects are felt. Life certainly could be nicer. You watch some motivational clips on YouTube and resolutely decide,”That’s it, I’m going for it. I owe it to myself to chase my dreams!” Bravo! Now here comes the hard part.
In my case, I do want to become an author and I have for a long time. I’ve not really put in the effort to fulfill this dream for a long time, but now it feels like I’m at a place in my life to go for it. I realize I have to dedicate a huge amount of time and effort if I want this dream to be realized.
I have to dedicate a huge amount of time and effort if I want this dream to be realized.
Loving The Process
This is the crux on which most dreams are never fulfilled. We realize we can’t just slip into montage mode like Rocky and suddenly be ready for the big fight. We must engage in process day in and day out. We must love the means by which we improve, failing that, we must have such a high will and pain tolerance for doing something we’re not into for as long as it takes to accomplish the end goal. I’d much rather be a part of the former group.
Let’s take my dream for example. If you love the process of writing then you’ve already won. Even if you don’t get published or recognized for your work, you’re engaging in a hobby that delights you constantly. That’s a wonderful thing. Success becomes a byproduct instead of an all-or-nothing justification.
Just to be clear, loving to do something doesn’t mean It’s never frustrating or unfulfilling. There’s rough patches in everything.
Motivation By The End Results
If we’re motivated solely by the our successful imaginary persona then we may be motivated for a short time, but eventually the time spent won’t seem worth it. Results tend to be slow for the big stuff. The phrase Nothing Worth Having Comes Easy is largely true. Without that love of process there, practice is such a slog. It quickly becomes frustrating, especially for those who have trouble finding out how to improve through their failures.
Find Your Passion
Find whatever it is that has a process that’s inherently exciting to you. Who knows, it might not catch right away. Give yourself time to learn the rules of what you’re trying out before you give up. Be honest with yourself, too. If something feels wrong and boring for an extended period of time, maybe It’s just not for you. You’re not flawed, It’s just not your thing. Accept no shame from those who make you feel less for dropping something that’s not for you.
What about you? Do you have a process you find innately fulfilling? What sort of dreams do you have? What sort of dreams have you given up on?
~Love The Process To Process The Love~